Today, an estimated 130 people in the United States of America will take their own lives. Statistics from 2019 show that suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the United States. And, though 47,511 people lost their lives to suicide in 2019, an estimated 1.38 million people had attempted suicide that same year. Though the numbers seem bleak, statistics from August 2020 reveal that 93% of adults believe suicide can be prevented. We can work together to prevent suicide by educating others on the signs that a loved one may be thinking of ending their own life. And, we can help those struggling with suicidal thoughts by providing them with resources.
Do You Know Someone Considering Suicide?
Individuals who are going through a divorce may have an increased risk for suicidal thoughts and behaviors. We also know that people suffering from mood disorders such as anxiety and depression are more likely to have suicidal thoughts. According to the Suicide Prevention Lifeline, the following are signs to look out for:
- Mental disorders, particularly mood disorders, schizophrenia, anxiety disorders, and certain personality disorders
- Alcohol and other substance use disorders
- Hopelessness
- Impulsive and/or aggressive tendencies
- History of trauma or abuse
- Major physical illnesses
- Previous suicide attempt(s)
- Family history of suicide
- Job or financial loss
- Loss of relationship(s)
- Easy access to lethal means
- Local clusters of suicide
- Lack of social support and sense of isolation
- Stigma associated with asking for help
- Lack of healthcare, especially mental health and substance abuse treatment
- Cultural and religious beliefs, such as the belief that suicide is a noble resolution of a personal dilemma
- Exposure to others who have died by suicide (in real life or via the media and Internet)
When to Reach Out
It’s normal to feel down and even depressed when you’re going through changes in your life. However, if you begin to experience extreme and persistent depression, it may be time to seek out additional resources. Though many people are able to cope with their suicidal thoughts after divorce using self-care methods and medication, many other people continue to struggle. If you have continued to feel depressed, it may be time to reach out to a mental health professional. In very serious cases, you may need to seek inpatient treatment. Though inpatient treatment may seem like a big step, it could help save your life.
Where to Reach Out
Finding a therapist near you is as easy as doing a google search. However, appointments are often a few weeks out. Though therapy can be extremely beneficial to people who are struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts, it often does not provide instant relief. If you are in crisis, call the national suicide prevention hotline now. The phone number for the national suicide hotline is 1-800-273-8255. In extreme cases, crisis centers are available to help stabilize your emotions over a period of a few days.
No One Dies from Divorce
At CoilLaw, we tell our clients that no one dies from divorce because it’s true. Divorce itself does not kill anyone. However, the pain associated with divorce can be excruciating. If you are in crisis, call the national suicide prevention hotline immediately. If you have concerns about someone you love, reach out to them today. Together, we can prevent suicide.
Divorce Is Hard, and You Are Not Alone
Divorce is one of life’s most stressful experiences, and it is normal for it to bring intense emotions, including grief, loneliness, and despair. For some people, that pain becomes overwhelming. If you are struggling, please know that what you are feeling is understandable, that you are not alone, and that these feelings, however heavy, can ease with the right support.
If You Are in Crisis, Reach Out Now
If you are having thoughts of harming yourself, please reach out for help right away. In the United States, you can call or text the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at any time, day or night, to talk with someone who is trained to help and who cares. You can learn more at the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If you are in immediate danger, call 911. Reaching out is a sign of strength, and help is always available.
Warning Signs to Take Seriously
Whether you are worried about yourself or someone you love, some signs deserve attention, including:
- Withdrawing from friends, family, and activities.
- Expressing hopelessness or feeling like a burden.
- Big changes in mood, sleep, or behavior.
- Giving away belongings or saying goodbye.
If you notice these in someone, ask them directly and kindly how they are doing, listen without judgment, and help them connect with support. Your concern can make a real difference.
There Is a Path Forward
Emotional pain after divorce is real, but it is also treatable. Therapists, doctors, support groups, and trusted people in your life can help you carry the weight and find your footing again. Many people who once felt hopeless go on to build full, meaningful lives. Be patient and gentle with yourself, and let others help. Meanwhile, if the legal side of your divorce is adding to the stress, a Salt Lake City divorce attorney can carry that part so you can focus on healing. Contact our team whenever you are ready.
Small Steps Make a Difference
When everything feels heavy, you do not have to fix it all at once. Tiny steps count: getting through today, calling one person, keeping one appointment, or getting outside for a few minutes. Support can come from many directions at the same time, including a doctor, a counselor, a support group, and the people who care about you. You deserve that support, and asking for it is one of the bravest and most hopeful things a person can do.
Frequently Asked Questions
Where can I get help if I am struggling after a divorce?
Reach out to a therapist or doctor, and lean on people you trust. If you are in crisis, you can call or text the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at any time.
How can I help someone who seems to be struggling?
Ask them directly and kindly how they are, listen without judgment, take any talk of self-harm seriously, and help them connect with professional support.
