If Therapy Can’t Save Your Marriage, Let It Save Your Money

By January 31, 2018Divorce

Whether you and your partner have tried getting counseling during your marriage or not, you may think the time for therapy has passed—since you’re now looking to get divorced or are in the middle of getting divorced. The truth is that now may be the best time to seek help. Going through a divorce brings many emotions to light, including grief, guilt, fear, anger, confusion, anxiety, or shame. This can be exponentially so if there are children involved.

Many assume that once they have hired an attorney, their personal stress will be relieved. While it’s true that your lawyer can help navigate you through the legal and financial ramifications of getting divorced, their main objective isn’t to help you emotionally. Be aware that most attorneys charge you by the hour, which often includes not just time spent working on your case and court time, but also phone calls and meetings with you. So even though it may be easy for you to open up to them because they are aware of many intimate details of your life, if you use them to talk through your feelings or let off steam, it could end up being quite costly. Most attorneys charge more per hour than therapists, and attorneys are not professionally trained to counsel you through your emotions. Plus, many insurance plans cover or partially cover therapy.

Here Are 4 Reasons to See a Therapist while Going through a Divorce:

  1. Divorce brings up a lot of emotional trauma. Do yourself and your kids a favor and seek professional counseling so that you can overcome the negative feelings you may have about yourself or your to-be ex-spouse so you can move on with your life after the divorce.
  2. It will save you money. Using an attorney as your therapist is much more costly than using a therapist. The national average cost of an attorney per hour is $284, compared to the national average cost of a therapist at $112 per hour. And insurance may be able to help cover those costs.
  3. A therapist is professionally trained to help you through whatever emotions you are feeling. An attorney can listen to your problems, but they can’t advise or prescribe. And friends and family are too close to the situation. You need a third-party professional to help you see things clearly and help you heal.
  4. You’ll be able to defend and protect yourself more adeptly through your divorce if you are emotionally stable. Don’t let your current emotions of guilt or shame or anxiety cause you to lose out or over-compromise your assets during the divorce.

You may feel that you are fine emotionally and don’t need a therapist. Or you may think that getting a divorce will just be a relief. Or perhaps you are the partner that is choosing to leave and therefore feel you shouldn’t need help. While that may be true for a select few, most people will be experiencing new and perhaps surprising emotions going through a divorce. And whatever you feel, your therapist can help you identify and process those emotions so that you can better handle your situation.

Getting Help with Your Utah Divorce Case

With that said, definitely don’t neglect to also hire yourself a divorce attorney. Having a great therapist together with having a great attorney, will ensure you the best possible chance to navigate your divorce and be able to more effectively move on and live your life happily, once your divorce is finalized. If you are looking into a divorce and need legal help, we’re here for you.  You need to ensure you consult with a competent family law attorney that understands the issues during a divorce and will help put your mind at ease legally and financially so you don’t get taken advantage of.  At CoilLaw, LLC, Salt Lake City Divorce attorney Jill Coil knows how to advise you during a divorce to help you achieve the best settlement and/or result possible.  At CoilLaw we are ready and available to help you through your legal action. If you need legal advice concerning a Utah family law issue, call Jill Coil at CoilLaw LLC in Utah at (801) 939-6027 today.