How long does it take to get back to normal after divorce? If you’re thinking of getting a divorce, you may be asking yourself this very question: how long does it take?
A New Normal Varies for Everyone
When it comes to normal, everyone varies. Some people may feel like things are back to normal after only a few months. On the other hand, some may take years to get back to “normal”. Getting back to normal will depend on a few things. First, what do you consider to be normal? Some people may need to feel mentally safe and secure before they consider themselves to be back to normal. Others may need to have adjusted to their new life. Some people may need to be remarried in order to feel as though their life has gone back to normal. When you get back to a new normal will depend on what you’re going to need to do in order to feel normal again, and what happens during the divorce process.
Speeding the Process Up
Can you make the process go faster? If you’re wondering about this, you’re not alone. Going through the divorce process isn’t easy, and it’s important to take time to heal so you don’t have unresolved issues down the road. When you’re getting a divorce, make sure that you’re allowing yourself to feel all the emotions that you’re feeling. Remember, that the loss of a marriage is significant, even for those who wanted the divorce in the first place. It’s okay to feel however you feel about the divorce. However, suppressing feelings, or pretending like you don’t have feelings about the divorce, can hold back your healing process. Moving on too quickly can also make the healing process go slower. In order to fully heal from the pain of divorce, you need to honor yourself and your feelings, taking things one step at a time. While there’s no way to skip the process altogether, there are some things you can do to speed up the process.
Therapy
Attending therapy can be a useful way to move forward in the divorce process. In fact, going through divorce without the help of a licensed therapist is not recommended. Therapists can help you develop useful coping strategies during the divorce process that can help you make it through the divorce process with less trauma and conflict. Therapy can also help you process the divorce and the marriage after the divorce has been finalized. Many people struggle to cope with the aftermath of the divorce, especially if this is the first time they’ve been divorced. Most people aren’t adequately prepared for the loneliness they feel after the separation has begin. This can even be traumatic. It’s important to understand that not only are these feelings valid, they’re acceptable and 100% normal. Going to therapy can help you process the most difficult parts of the divorce while building emotional and mental health.
Routine
Getting into a routine can help you feel like things have gone back to normal. It’s important to make sure that you get into a routine by building up healthy habits that foster productivity and promote your well-being. For example, beginning an exercise habit is a great way to get into a routine that will be productive and healthy. There are some habits and routines that you can get into that are not productive or healthy. For example, if you begin to cope with the painful effects of divorce by overeating, abusing substances, or engaging in other unhealthy behaviors. Make sure that your new routine fosters growth in your physical health, mental health, and emotional well-being.
Avoiding Pitfalls
One of the worst things you can do during the divorce process is escape using self-destructive methods. The problem is that these methods create a negative cycle that’s difficult to escape from. For instance, if you begin consuming alcohol to numb the pain, you may initially feel less emotional pain. However, you will likely feel even worse when you sober up. You may feel the physical effects of the hangover or lingering mental effects of the alcohol. The pain this causes you may lead you to be tempted to drink more alcohol in order to make the pain stop. This cycle can make motivation very difficult to find, and it can push someone into a lasting depression.
When You Need Legal Advice…
If you have questions about the divorce process, and you need legal advice, contact CoilLaw to get started with your initial consultation.