Divorce is a traumatic experience for many people. That’s why it’s so important to take care of your mental health during the divorce process. All the time and emotional energy people put into the divorce process typically leaves them very little time for self-care. And this is especially true for caregivers of young children. However, when people neglect their mental health needs during divorce, it can make the divorce process more difficult and cause even more trauma. Although there’s not one right way to approach mental health and self-care, it is important that those going through a divorce find ways to take care of themselves and maintain their mental health.
Keep a Journal
Keep a journal where you can record your thoughts and emotions as you’re going through the divorce process. If you’re not using a digital journal, you may decide to keep your journal in a place where you’ll see it and remember to write in it. You don’t have to spend hours writing in your journal. Just a few minutes every day can help you organize your thoughts and process your emotions. If you’re concerned about others accessing your journal, it may be a good idea to use a virtual journal that only you have the password to. You can use a word doc, google drive, or there are certain websites that allow users to have online private journals.
See a Therapist
A therapist is beneficial for anyone who’s going through a divorce. Divorce is considered one of the most traumatic events a person can experience. If you are going through a divorce, you should definitely consider going to see a licensed therapist, particularly one with experience in divorce counseling. A qualified mental health professional may be able to help you to process some of the more complex emotions that come with divorce, along with teaching you to cope with these emotions in healthy and effective ways. Also, working with a therapist may help you manage and respond appropriately to stressful situations, such as a high-conflict divorce. They may also help keep the events and circumstances of the divorce in perspective which can be helpful in moving forward through and after the divorce. You may also consider reading No One Dies from Divorce.
Find a New Hobby
A lot of people had hobbies that they were interested in before they got married but, between finding time to go on dates with their spouse, caring for the children, and just everyday life, they’ve forgotten to find time for hobbies. Now that you’re going through a divorce, this is a good time to try something new, or revisit a hobby you’ve lost touch with. Think of what kinds of interests and activities you’d like to fill your life with and start your new hobby. Having a hobby can keep your thoughts focused on something positive and fulfilling during what most people consider to be a very difficult time.
Join a Support Group
Going to therapy is likely beneficial. However, it may also help you to spend time around others who are going through the divorce process, or who have already gotten through the divorce process. A support group can help give you a sense of community during what most people feel is an incredibly lonely time. We tell our clients that no one dies from divorce because it’s true; divorce can’t kill you. However, a lot of the emotions that come with a divorce can lead people to some very dark places. Having a support group with people who are going through similar emotions can help you feel less alone. Plus, you’ll likely benefit from sharing your story with an understanding group of people.
Find New Friends
While you’re finding new hobbies, you may also decide to try to find some new friends, or reach out to some old friends. Having a friend who shares your interests and hobbies can further help you stay focused on the positive things in life. Meeting friends as an adult is difficult but, thanks to the internet, we now have apps for finding friends. There are apps available to meet new friends that are specifically geared toward friendship, not dating. So, you don’t need to use dating apps as a way to find friends. Remember, dating apps are made for dating, not friendship; people on Tinder are not likely looking for platonic friends. Also, don’t forget to follow all the safety tips you’d normally follow on social media.
Protect Your Rights
If you’re going through a divorce CoilLaw is here for you. No matter what your situation is, you could likely benefit from having customized legal advice from an attorney. Having an attorney advocating for you throughout the divorce process is the best way to ensure you get the most favorable outcome possible. It’s also a great way to protect yourself and your rights during the divorce process. If you’re ready to get the legal advice you deserve, contact CoilLaw today.